The Best Relationship Advice I Could Ever Give

Last night I proposed a question on Twitter,

"Why do people strive for a romantic relationship, when the greatest relationship you'll ever have is with yourself?"


Now I know very well how this may cause some controversy among teenagers who honestly think a relationship is the "make-or-break" of their popularity, or social standing in high school.(First of all let me just remind you that you are in high school, are you really looking to marry anyone at your high school?)

I promise you that no one is judging you because you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I hate when people have a boyfriend or girlfriend for the sake of having one. What do you think that says about yourself? I'll tell you.

Something I have recently realized is that if I were to have many boyfriends, one after the other, none of them actually meaning anything. I would have never actually had a relationship. I've just held hands and kissed a bunch of boys so I don't have to be the only girl who hasn't had her first kiss at the age of 16, but it all didn't really mean anything.

Is that really what it's all about?

Are we all really just scared of being alone forever?

Listen, I know lots of people who still haven't been kissed at the ages of 16 and even 17, but they are only upset about it if they let themselves.

If you can build a relationship with yourself before you build on with someone else then trying to have a boyfriend or girlfriend will be so much easier.

If you are going through boyfriends or girlfriends like tissues during the flu season you need to take a moment and look inwards. There is something in your life that is empty and for some reason you think you can fill that void with a boyfriend or girlfriend, but the truth is it won't fill your gap, and your boyfriend/girlfriend will notice that gap. And they will walk away.

 They'll know that someone who doesn't love themselves won't ever love them.

So Diamonds, here's the deal.

If you think you need a relationship, you are a sorry little thing.

My friend Ana never thought she needed a relationship, and she didn't go looking for one out of desperation, but she ended up finding someone who she really liked, and now they are in the most perfect relationship.

So my advice for you is quit looking. If you have found someone, then great. Just stop looking and wondering, start thinking about yourself, think about what you need.

Because in every relationship you should know that you are the most important.