How Do you Know?

There is a person in every ones life, who is so close to you, that they are practically family.

It's the friend whose house you would run away to if your parents kick you out, it's the friend whose family is practically your second family, sometimes you think you hang out there more than your own house.

But the point of this friend/ soul sister that I want to emphasize is that this person ( or persons in my case) know you even better than you will ever know yourself.

I am almost positive this must have happened to you before.

You have at one point in time told a friend something personal about you, and you were worried about their reaction, but you were pleasantly surprised to hear them say "OH please, I already knew that!"

Maybe it was a "I think I have a crush on *Insert name here*" maybe it was a "I think I want to quit playing soccer" or possibly, "I think I want to become a clown when I grown up."

And as comfortable as it is when a friend already knows these things, it's also important for a friend to realize how to say the "Already knew that."

For example, after Sally died I told a handful of people about it the day after it happened, but there where some people I told a couple of weeks or days after it happened. Instead of some of them comforting me and telling me they were sorry for my loss, they simply said "I already knew that, so-and-so told me two days ago."

Personally I was never mad at so-and-so for telling them. I was mad at the person I just told, because they said it in a way like "OMG you didn't know Katie Holmes is getting a divorce? It's SO two weeks ago..." I was like Hello?! This is my dead cousin we are talking about, not some celebrity couple?!

Those are the people I have stopped talking to a lot, and I don't have many regrets about it.

So, the point is there are friends who are going to give you the "I already knew that" in life, and some of them will make you smile and it'll just remind you how well your friend knows you.

Sadly other times it may make you realize that someone isn't as close to you as you may thought they were, but here's my advice;

A true friend will always react in the right way, they will be the kind of person you can call-out for being an asshole, but you really shouldn't have to do that a lot, because they should be able to react just the way you want them to.