The Best Relationship Advice I Could Ever Give

Last night I proposed a question on Twitter,

"Why do people strive for a romantic relationship, when the greatest relationship you'll ever have is with yourself?"


Now I know very well how this may cause some controversy among teenagers who honestly think a relationship is the "make-or-break" of their popularity, or social standing in high school.(First of all let me just remind you that you are in high school, are you really looking to marry anyone at your high school?)

I promise you that no one is judging you because you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I hate when people have a boyfriend or girlfriend for the sake of having one. What do you think that says about yourself? I'll tell you.

Something I have recently realized is that if I were to have many boyfriends, one after the other, none of them actually meaning anything. I would have never actually had a relationship. I've just held hands and kissed a bunch of boys so I don't have to be the only girl who hasn't had her first kiss at the age of 16, but it all didn't really mean anything.

Is that really what it's all about?

Are we all really just scared of being alone forever?

Listen, I know lots of people who still haven't been kissed at the ages of 16 and even 17, but they are only upset about it if they let themselves.

If you can build a relationship with yourself before you build on with someone else then trying to have a boyfriend or girlfriend will be so much easier.

If you are going through boyfriends or girlfriends like tissues during the flu season you need to take a moment and look inwards. There is something in your life that is empty and for some reason you think you can fill that void with a boyfriend or girlfriend, but the truth is it won't fill your gap, and your boyfriend/girlfriend will notice that gap. And they will walk away.

 They'll know that someone who doesn't love themselves won't ever love them.

So Diamonds, here's the deal.

If you think you need a relationship, you are a sorry little thing.

My friend Ana never thought she needed a relationship, and she didn't go looking for one out of desperation, but she ended up finding someone who she really liked, and now they are in the most perfect relationship.

So my advice for you is quit looking. If you have found someone, then great. Just stop looking and wondering, start thinking about yourself, think about what you need.

Because in every relationship you should know that you are the most important.

Am I Worth Saving?

So Diamonds, as you may know I have a very wide taste in music.

I listen to just about anything.

Recently I have been listening to the most recent album by All Time Low "Don't Panic."

It's a fantastic album and I highly recommend it if you like good music.

I usually listen to all songs equally on an album, but one song caught my attention immediately, the first line pulled me in.

"When will the princess figure it out, she ain't worth saving?"

Now at first I laughed at that line thinking about woman running the world, and us not having to depend on men.

But after listening to it a couple of times I started to ponder, "What if the princess really doesn't realize that no one wants to save her? What is she honestly believes there is a prince some where out there looking for her?"

Then I worried about being that princess.

What if there is no one out there willing to climb up my hair if I'm trapped in a tall tower.

What I lose my shoe at the ball, and the prince just donates it to good will instead of trying to find me.

What if I fall asleep for 100 years and no one decides to wake me up?

Am I the only one who is worried about that?

I know I talk a lot about saving yourself, and being the leader of your own destiny, but couldn't Cinderella have just walked out? Couldn't Rapunzel have jumped out the window herself? Could Sleeping Beauty have broken her own curse?

I don't think so, that's not how fairy tales work my friends, and I would like to believe that my life resembles a fairy tale.

So I guess a girl is left to wonder, "If I was a princess trapped in a tower, had fallen asleep for 100 years, or lost my shoe at the ball; would I be worth saving?"

The Simplest Thing

Has someone ever done something that sort of surprised you?

A good surprise of course.

Like a surprise kiss, a surprise party, or a random act of kindness?

Just yesterday my friend did the nicest thing to me and it just kind of surprised me how perfect it was, not that my friends aren't extremely perfect.

The other day I started crying in one of my classes. I don't really want to bring up what it was that made me cry, but the point is I cried.

 I was with a couple of my friends.

Two of my friends tried to help by saying things like "Sweetie, whats wrong?" and "Are you ok?"

Which is totally fine and I love them so much for worrying about me.

But my friend Maria did the most fabulous thing ever.

I was crying and she just picked up her phone, which kind of made me mad, I was thinking that she just didn't care, or worse, thought I was just looking for attention.

Maria pulled out her phone and pulled up a bunch of memes and wouldn't stop showing me memes until I was fine again.

It just shows how well she knows me and I don't think I could ever thank her enough for that perfect moment.

It just proves she's a total Diamond.

So here's my new challenge for you Diamonds lets call it "The Maria Challenge"

I want you all to show your friends that you are there for them, but not in the normal way. I want you to do something super silly, but extremely thoughtful.

Say you have a best friend who loves green M&Ms, and this friend is having a bad day. I want you to do something like go to the store and get a huge bag of green M&Ms for them, something that shows you care, and that you pay attention.

It doesn't have to be huge, it just has to have thought to it.

We DO Need the Tears.

About a month ago I blogged about the ideal of a perfect break up.

I'm here to tell you that I have done some personal research, and have come to the obvious conclusion that they do not exist.

I told you that Derek and I didn't have a messy break up.

Turns out if you don't have the messy break up it's just fate simply saying "Haha, yeah OK hold on for a few months then I'm gunna make you cry!"

And that's just what fate does.

I invited Derek to this thing several weeks ago, and he told me he would try to make it. Well obviously he did not come to this event. I really wasn't that mad except that he didn't text me or call me with any sort of excuse.

And since I admitted to you that I still did picture him as my "one" in the back of my mind, you can tell how this really bothered me.

Some times I still wait for him to call or text me with an excuse, but I think I already know what happened.

I think he met some one.

Some one else, a girl who goes to his school, and is super- amazing. She probably has hipster clothing and is his musical soul-mate.

I may seem mad about this, but I'm not.

I'm mostly just sad, but deep down inside I know I'm really happy for him. I'm happy that he's moved on because I know I couldn't have done it.

So Diamonds, I guess we do need the tears. We need those days where we sit in front of the sofa and watch an entire Sex and the City marathon, we need boys to come into our lives and break our hearts so that we can truly appreciate the good guys in our lives.

And when we find that special someone we'll know it's him because we'll be masters at finding the douche bags.

It's My One Day to be a Romantic so...

"You love her, but she loves him, and he loves somebody else, you just can't win!"

I think The J. Gelis Band really hit that one on the head in their song "Love Stinks"

Now I'm not the type of person to run around on Valentines day and spit on all the happy couples, or put rubber bands over their head when they make-out in the hallways right in front of your locker.

No! I like to tell people that I am only a Romantic one day a year, and obviously it's today. Now you may consider me a romantic in general, but I disagree. Sure, I have my moments when I get all girly and lovey-dovey giggly, but every girl does.

However I have seen a lot of Internet memes that say things like "I want to find that boy who will call me up at 3 am just to tell me he is thinking about me..."

If you call me up at 3 am, you'd better be dying.

If you give me flowers I'll also probably make you carry those around all day. I'm the kind of girl who's not into the classy romantic stuff, just the silly goofy stuff like singing along yo your favorite songs in the car.

Anyways, back to The J. Gelis Band song!

They really knew what they were doing when they wrote "You just can't win!"

You can't win in love. Good luck trying.

You will always be fighting for that person, and if they are worth it, you don't stop.

If you are in love with someone, and then you just decided to drop them, I'm sorry, but you're lying to yourself, you liar.

You will never get over your first love, maybe they weren't the person you ended up with, but you will always care about the person you feel in love with that time.

And even when you are with the person you were meant for you fight for them. They will always keep you on your toes, because you would rather die than see them with someone else.

But isn't that the best part?

Even after years this person will keep you on your toes, and you learn a new thing about them everyday. You'll still be married to the same person, but they just get better every day!

SO when you find the one person you're suppose to be with lets have your song be something more a long the lines of, "If it's Love" by Train, instead of "Love Stinks."

Candy Hearts, Love Letters, and Six- foot Teddy Bears

Now, I'm sure we have all asked that one person, "Will you be my Valentine?"

I just did! and while I wait for Josh Hutcherson to return my phone call I will make a blog post.

If you haven't asked someone that question then I think i have every right to smack you upside the head.

Don't worry though, because tomorrow is your perfect opportunity to do just that. Valentines day is suppose to be fun, and silly. Not an actual romantic thing. Not at our age at least.

When you get into a serious relationship in ten years, then V-Day is the #1 day a man might propose to you, that and St. Patty's day because you'll both be extremely wasted and the convo will be like "Lets fucking get married!" "Oh my God I'm so wasted yes!"

Please. Please. PLEASE. Don't let that happen to you. But if it does I'm gunna laugh at you.

Anyways, Valentines.

Listen ladies and gents, you don't actually have to go over the top for this day.

Boys, if you want to ask a girl out make her laugh and give her a rose. A single rose and a funny V-Day card will be perfect. A whole bouquet of roses will scare the fuck out of the chick.

Girls, if you have a crush on a guy my friend Ana gives the best advice on how to get guys "Just walk up to him and stick your tongue down his throat and then walk away!"

*Sad Slow Clap*

Major props to Ana everyone

NO! Though I adore Ana's courage, I think most of us females just need to be honest with a guy if we like him. Just flat out say "Hey wanna be my valentine?"

The best part: You're not even asking the guy out! It's just Valentines day! Asking to be some one Valentine isn't asking for them to go out with you, or be their girl/boyfriend!

So Diamonds, when you wake up early tomorrow and get your hair and make-up all pretty, with some sort of expectation someone is going to ask you out, don't be afraid to take charge and ask them out!

Also don't forget to wear Pink, Red, and/or White! Valentines Day is a one- year thing!

Is it Ever as Simple as a 90's Pop Song?

Do you remember when you were little and everything was so simple? I think it's because our music was so simple.

I was listening to some of my old songs that I listened to when I was little, and I realized how straightforward these lyrics are.

"Spinning around. I've got this funny feeling, turning my whole world upside down, I'll keep my heart and my eyes on you. Cause you keep my spinning around!"

How effortless was that? simply telling a person, "Hey when you're around me, I feel happy."

Why is that so hard for us teenagers? Why must we over complicate things? Why is it we have songs that are so much more complicated?

For example, it pretty much took me a matter of days to figure out the multiple meanings behind Taylor Swifts song "Red," but when I figured it out I realized how much I could relate. All of the songs in her album have taken me weeks, and I'm not so sure I've figured it all out yet.

I'm still trying to figure out what happened from then and now. What happened in the last six years that all of a sudden made our music so much more complicated?

Was is just out overexposure to all of the different romances?

Was it because we've learned about sex?

Did we realize that love is imperfect and it's just not as simple as a teeny- bopper song?

Well, why can't love be just like a teeny- bopper song? Why does love have to be imperfect?

I feel like we may just over complicate things. We should just walk up to someone and simply say to them "Hey I like you," boom. Why do we have to make this extremely dramatic scene and tragedy out of it?

Why do we make our relationships turn into long depressing albums, and not just one silly single?