When Your Expectations are Too Damn High!

Now I understand that most girls have already picked out EXACTLY  what their husband is going to be like. For example, My kick- ass friend Marrissa has decided to quit high school boys, and move on to Russian hockey players, which I fully support. Since I am from Boston there is nothing I find more attractive than having your nose broken because you got hit in the face with a  stick. However the kind of unreal expectations some girls have fore men is bizarre, even to me. Don't get me wrong Marrissa may seem kind of dreaming when she says "Russian Hockey Players," but I know Marrissa, and any guys would be lucky to have her. My friend Kate on the other hand...

My friend Kate and I have known each other for a really long time. Recently however we have been butting-heads in a few arguments. One of the arguments I m going to shine a light on today, and this argument involves the big S-E-X.

My friend Kate is under the impression that you can find ANY MAN who is willing to wait until marriage to have sex with you. I'm not disagreeing with her there are men who will wait until marriage, but those men are way too hard to find.

Now lets look at  all the things wrong with Kate's ideal man. First, and I'm not trying to stereotype men as "sex-crazy", but men will usually not stick around with a girl unless they are getting some sort of action.

Ladies I'm not saying you should drop your panties the second a guy asks you to (have some dignity), but the idea of being in a relationship with a person and waiting until marriage to have sex is unlikely and I would not suggest it. A very wise woman once told me "Now Phoebe, I'm not telling you to have sex before you're married, because that would be wrong. However, you should always check the merchandise before you buy it."

The fact that Kate feels that way about relationships now, will change. Once she has a legitimate relationship with actual boys, in the real world (Sorry if you're reading this sweetie, but it's sort of true). I will admit that I felt the exact same way as Kate did, until recently. Now I feel that you're only young for the time being and you should just live it up. I'm not saying go out and have sex at the age of sixteen, because we are still too young for that. I'm just trying to say that such an expectation is ridiculous and is definitely not fit for the real world.

Don't base expectations for a relationship off of a fucking Disney movie.

 If you walk away from this post and your ideal man is still Prince Charming, Your expectations are too damn high...