Who's Really the Ugly One?

Don't lie, we have all said it before, "Ugh, she's so ugly." "What an ugly bitch."or the classic "Who? Her? the ugly one?"

Now my opinion on the word ugly is that I frankly hate it. As a girl who has had self esteem issues since elementary school I feel like saying words like that are harsh, and you shouldn't say that to a person.

However there is an exception to every rule.

Research shows that if someone acts two-faced or just flat-out mean towards you, the flaws of her face suddenly became obvious in your mind, and you remember her as being extremely ugly. Contrary to that, if a person is genuinely nice, and funny, and caring, you're going to see her as a very pretty person. I'm not quite sure how that works, but think about it a little, it makes sense.

Now why did I bring this topic up?

Ever since elementary school when I had my insecurities I vowed to myself that I would never hate a person until I got to know them, and I would never call a girl ugly behind her back, unless I meant it towards her personality. Ever since then the word ugly has just been a, well, an ugly word for me. I feel like people only say it to hide their own insecurities.

"Calling somebody else fat won't make you any skinnier. Calling someone stupid doesn't make you any smarter."

OK so if Cady was right in that quote than calling someone ugly won't make you any prettier, and because that is a mean thing to say it will really only make you look uglier in peoples eyes.

Today my sister used the word "ugly" twice while I was having a conversation with her. Both times she was talking about people whom she didn't know. I was ashamed, I corrected her both times, but she just became mad at me, and I think I know why. She knew it was wrong to call those people ugly because she didn't know them, so when I called her out on it she became embarrassed.

Which makes me want to bring up a point: When you call someone out on being a bully, or saying something mean to you they will immediately lose power. Their body language closes up and their voice becomes timid, that or they will start over-reacting which will only make them look like a complete bitch.

So listen, I know that people are still going to use the word ugly, I can't stop the freedom of speech you have, but I am saying that you should probably think twice before saying it next time. Especially if you don't know the person.