We DO Need the Tears.

About a month ago I blogged about the ideal of a perfect break up.

I'm here to tell you that I have done some personal research, and have come to the obvious conclusion that they do not exist.

I told you that Derek and I didn't have a messy break up.

Turns out if you don't have the messy break up it's just fate simply saying "Haha, yeah OK hold on for a few months then I'm gunna make you cry!"

And that's just what fate does.

I invited Derek to this thing several weeks ago, and he told me he would try to make it. Well obviously he did not come to this event. I really wasn't that mad except that he didn't text me or call me with any sort of excuse.

And since I admitted to you that I still did picture him as my "one" in the back of my mind, you can tell how this really bothered me.

Some times I still wait for him to call or text me with an excuse, but I think I already know what happened.

I think he met some one.

Some one else, a girl who goes to his school, and is super- amazing. She probably has hipster clothing and is his musical soul-mate.

I may seem mad about this, but I'm not.

I'm mostly just sad, but deep down inside I know I'm really happy for him. I'm happy that he's moved on because I know I couldn't have done it.

So Diamonds, I guess we do need the tears. We need those days where we sit in front of the sofa and watch an entire Sex and the City marathon, we need boys to come into our lives and break our hearts so that we can truly appreciate the good guys in our lives.

And when we find that special someone we'll know it's him because we'll be masters at finding the douche bags.

It's My One Day to be a Romantic so...

"You love her, but she loves him, and he loves somebody else, you just can't win!"

I think The J. Gelis Band really hit that one on the head in their song "Love Stinks"

Now I'm not the type of person to run around on Valentines day and spit on all the happy couples, or put rubber bands over their head when they make-out in the hallways right in front of your locker.

No! I like to tell people that I am only a Romantic one day a year, and obviously it's today. Now you may consider me a romantic in general, but I disagree. Sure, I have my moments when I get all girly and lovey-dovey giggly, but every girl does.

However I have seen a lot of Internet memes that say things like "I want to find that boy who will call me up at 3 am just to tell me he is thinking about me..."

If you call me up at 3 am, you'd better be dying.

If you give me flowers I'll also probably make you carry those around all day. I'm the kind of girl who's not into the classy romantic stuff, just the silly goofy stuff like singing along yo your favorite songs in the car.

Anyways, back to The J. Gelis Band song!

They really knew what they were doing when they wrote "You just can't win!"

You can't win in love. Good luck trying.

You will always be fighting for that person, and if they are worth it, you don't stop.

If you are in love with someone, and then you just decided to drop them, I'm sorry, but you're lying to yourself, you liar.

You will never get over your first love, maybe they weren't the person you ended up with, but you will always care about the person you feel in love with that time.

And even when you are with the person you were meant for you fight for them. They will always keep you on your toes, because you would rather die than see them with someone else.

But isn't that the best part?

Even after years this person will keep you on your toes, and you learn a new thing about them everyday. You'll still be married to the same person, but they just get better every day!

SO when you find the one person you're suppose to be with lets have your song be something more a long the lines of, "If it's Love" by Train, instead of "Love Stinks."

Candy Hearts, Love Letters, and Six- foot Teddy Bears

Now, I'm sure we have all asked that one person, "Will you be my Valentine?"

I just did! and while I wait for Josh Hutcherson to return my phone call I will make a blog post.

If you haven't asked someone that question then I think i have every right to smack you upside the head.

Don't worry though, because tomorrow is your perfect opportunity to do just that. Valentines day is suppose to be fun, and silly. Not an actual romantic thing. Not at our age at least.

When you get into a serious relationship in ten years, then V-Day is the #1 day a man might propose to you, that and St. Patty's day because you'll both be extremely wasted and the convo will be like "Lets fucking get married!" "Oh my God I'm so wasted yes!"

Please. Please. PLEASE. Don't let that happen to you. But if it does I'm gunna laugh at you.

Anyways, Valentines.

Listen ladies and gents, you don't actually have to go over the top for this day.

Boys, if you want to ask a girl out make her laugh and give her a rose. A single rose and a funny V-Day card will be perfect. A whole bouquet of roses will scare the fuck out of the chick.

Girls, if you have a crush on a guy my friend Ana gives the best advice on how to get guys "Just walk up to him and stick your tongue down his throat and then walk away!"

*Sad Slow Clap*

Major props to Ana everyone

NO! Though I adore Ana's courage, I think most of us females just need to be honest with a guy if we like him. Just flat out say "Hey wanna be my valentine?"

The best part: You're not even asking the guy out! It's just Valentines day! Asking to be some one Valentine isn't asking for them to go out with you, or be their girl/boyfriend!

So Diamonds, when you wake up early tomorrow and get your hair and make-up all pretty, with some sort of expectation someone is going to ask you out, don't be afraid to take charge and ask them out!

Also don't forget to wear Pink, Red, and/or White! Valentines Day is a one- year thing!

Is it Ever as Simple as a 90's Pop Song?

Do you remember when you were little and everything was so simple? I think it's because our music was so simple.

I was listening to some of my old songs that I listened to when I was little, and I realized how straightforward these lyrics are.

"Spinning around. I've got this funny feeling, turning my whole world upside down, I'll keep my heart and my eyes on you. Cause you keep my spinning around!"

How effortless was that? simply telling a person, "Hey when you're around me, I feel happy."

Why is that so hard for us teenagers? Why must we over complicate things? Why is it we have songs that are so much more complicated?

For example, it pretty much took me a matter of days to figure out the multiple meanings behind Taylor Swifts song "Red," but when I figured it out I realized how much I could relate. All of the songs in her album have taken me weeks, and I'm not so sure I've figured it all out yet.

I'm still trying to figure out what happened from then and now. What happened in the last six years that all of a sudden made our music so much more complicated?

Was is just out overexposure to all of the different romances?

Was it because we've learned about sex?

Did we realize that love is imperfect and it's just not as simple as a teeny- bopper song?

Well, why can't love be just like a teeny- bopper song? Why does love have to be imperfect?

I feel like we may just over complicate things. We should just walk up to someone and simply say to them "Hey I like you," boom. Why do we have to make this extremely dramatic scene and tragedy out of it?

Why do we make our relationships turn into long depressing albums, and not just one silly single?

What To Do About the Crush?

We have all been there...

Our palms are sweaty, we talk louder than normal, we constantly flip our hair an make a giggle noise, and our face is red the entire time.

It's called a crush.

And I know what it feels like because over my life I have probably had about one hundred crushes. I got around, not really.

Before this summer I pretty much had a different crush on someone new every other month, or week, but this has been the first time in my life when I really don't have a crush on anyone.

And I love it.

But still the love cycle turns, and some of my friends have crushes. I guess now that I don't care about dating I get to help them with their love lives.

Like my friend Alice. ( http://positivelyalice.blogspot.com/ )


She just recently figured out she has a huge crush on someone, and I absolutely love it.

It reminds me whats its like to have a crush on someone, and I want nothing more than to see her happy. Even if her and this guy don't end up together I just love to see the looks on her face when he walks by her, and I secretly know she is jealous of anyone who gets to talk to him without her in the conversation.

Personally, I have come to the realization that crushes are completely pointless.

A crush is pretty much sitting around thinking about someone all day, but if you don't actually go up to this person and tell them flat out how you feel, then what are you getting out of this crush besides a heartbreak when they move on and you never tried to stop them?

So this is my challenge to all of you Diamonds:

If you honestly have a crush on a person tell them. First I would advise you to make sure they actually want a relationship, and I would think it'd be helpful to make sure they are interested. Also keep in mind that you have to be totally OK if they say no.

I flat out told Derek that I liked him, and look what that got me! The best summer ever, and such a good friend now! However I probably would have been just fine if he had said no.

So go out there and take a chance, or else you'll just get nothing.